Relationship Jealousy

Jealousy is one of the most destructive emotions that we can experience. It can destroy relationships, undermining the good that may have been built up between two people. It can also have a negative effect on the person's own health and well-being. At its root, jealousy is an unconscious fear of loss. So, when a partner says or does something that is felt as a threat to the quality or stability of the relationship, that unconscious fear is triggered and jealousy assaults the body and mind. Consequently, the longer this jealousy is allowed to manifest itself in your relationship, the more damage it will begin to cause.

Types of relationship jealousy

First of all it is important to differentiate between the low level, non-problematic jealousy that we all can experience, from the rather pathological jealousy that can erupt even if a partner is seen having a harmless conversation with someone. Low level jealousy isn't that much of an issue and some people believe a little jealousy can actually bring a bit more passion to a relationship. However, the real problems are with the latter category and they tend to stem from someone who is deeply insecure. This deep insecurity manifests as low self esteem and can make them overly dependent and protective of the relationship, compulsively controlling and checking up on their partner's every move. Anything that appears to be a threat to the relationship becomes a threat to their very self.